I can’t believe it but this is my 100th post. I guess I am even more surprised that you people are still reading my questionably sane ramblings. I am truly thankful for the love and support you have shown to G and I over the last several months. They definitely have not been the easiest but writing has helped ease the pain. I guess that brings about the question of what in the world am I going to write about to commemorate number 100? Then it came to me!
G & I are currently exploring our options for growing our family and have seriously been discussing the possibility of moving to adoption. We have started sharing that possibility with people as we struggle to make the decision. The response and support has been amazing from everyone…well almost everyone. I really never thought about the stupidity of people’s comments spilling over from infertility into adoption, but there they were.
After talking about our struggle with making the leap a friend recommended a book about adoption. While we were out one day we decided to quickly run into the bookstore and order the book. I’m not real sure why I didn’t learn my lesson before while trying to find a book on infertility at Barnes & Noble a few months back, but apparently I didn’t. I went to the information desk and asked the associate if she could order the book, “The Adoption Decision.” Her response to me was “Not from
you won’t.” Uhm, are you kidding me? Did that really just come out of her mouth? I turned to look at G, whose mouth was on the ground, to confirm that she did indeed just say that. I was floored! Why would you say anything like that to someone when you have no clue what their situation is? Really is it ever appropriate to say something like that? Russia
Had that been my only questionable comment I probably wouldn’t have thought much about it, but no, that was not the only negative response. While talking about the obstacles and my fears with adoption I was told, “I heard it’s really hard to adopt a white baby and you will have to wait a very long time.” Once again I was floored and not real sure how to respond. First of all, if I am blessed to be a mother I have no concerns about the color of my baby’s skin as long as it is healthy. Second of all, you have no clue where we are going to adopt from, so race may not be a factor period. Lastly…IT IS NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS WHAT COLOR MY BABY IS!!! Unless you plan on funding my adoption keep your comments to yourself.
If I am really lucky maybe while I am trying to make this decision I will get the comments, “God has a plan” or “My sister adopted and then got pregnant”.