Monday, December 17, 2012

Pregnancy, Newborns and the Infertility Clinic

I was recently talking with some friends and this seems to be a common issue with those going through infertility.  Not all infertility clinics are stand alone clinics and there are often triggers for infertiles while visiting their RE.  I am not a stranger to the situation myself!!!

Dr. L is housed in the “Women’s Center” at the clinic I go to.  So what does that really mean?  Well it means that not only is the waiting room filled with women who are trying to conceive, it is filled with pregnant women, toddlers and babies as well.  Going to your normal OB/GYN it’s really kind of expected that you would be surrounded by women who are pregnant and possibly have children with them.  However, bringing a baby to an Infertility clinic is like bringing donuts to an Overeaters Anonymous meeting! It really is just cruel and unusual punishment.

There are few things in the world that are more gut-wrenching for an infertile than hearing a baby cry, especially while waiting to see your fertility doctor.  For the most part I have been able to handle seeing those women and hearing those babies fairly well, with a few exceptions…after each one of my miscarriages.  Hearing those cries were reminders of my now empty womb and those maternal longings would tear up in my eyes as I watched the new mother calming her infant.

I have no ill feelings towards those who have children.  I never want anyone who desires children to experience the heartache of what G and I have.  However, when those of us trying desperately to conceive are forced to endure the cooing and gurgling of a healthy newborn it really does feel like torture and at times resembles envy!  Sometimes if it wasn’t for my deep desire to conceive my own baby and my total trust in Dr. L I think I would give all of this crap up just to not feel the pain any more!!!


  1. I have the same issues and it is so hard sometimes! xoxo

  2. This is so true. My clinic is attached to the OBGYN department too. It is so hard when I am waiting for my appt and there are kids everywehere!

  3. I have so been there before. It is awful! My new RE is in its own building which is so much better. Hopefully you will be one of the pregos in the waiting room soon! ((hugs))


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