It’s official I am 37 and another year older. This birthday really got me thinking. How old am I in fertility years? Is it like dog years…the first 35 count as one and then every year after that count as 7? So fertility speaking am I 49? Why is it after age 35 fertility decreases? What is it about that magic age that causes those eggs to become decrepit and conception that much harder?
If you follow the news, you've no doubt seen the barrage of stories focusing on women trying to conceive after age 35 and them waiting too long. The statistics show a steady decline in a woman’s reproductive health causing her to have trouble conceiving in later years. People constantly tell me that I shouldn’t listen to statistics and quite honestly it’s not like I have ever done anything by the book, but the stats really are weighing heavy on me today. The problem is I don’t seem to have issues getting pregnant it’s the staying pregnant that I seem to have a problem with. All the tests show no reasons for the losses so that makes this that much harder. Now let’s throw my age into the mix and yeah I’m stressing.
Being married at the age of 19, yep you read that right, I am sure people assumed that G and I had an obvious reason to get married. I am sure there were a few suspicious onlookers at our wedding that just knew I was pregnant. Yet the years passed and no baby. We really wanted to take the time to enjoy the early years of our marriage. G was in the Navy and out to sea a lot so we didn’t want him to miss out on our kid’s lives. At the ripe old age of 30 we decided that we were ready to expand our family. We had no clue that we would have issues.
After the cancer was gone and we began fertility treatments I was ovulating in no time. We have been able to conceive multiple times now, but still no baby to bring home. Since I started seeing Dr. L two more birthdays have come and gone and I am officially in what would be called my “late” 30s. I can’t say that I have seen any changes in my treatment cycles with each birthday, but don’t doubt that with any slight difference I am immediately questioning if it is because of my age. Dr. L tells me not to worry yet, we know that I have high quality eggs, can ovulate and can get pregnant; we just have to wait for one of those little guys to take up shop for 9 months. Great…more waiting!!!