We can all remember learning about the “birds and the bees” in our school health classes. We learn about a woman’s monthly cycle, where sperm comes from and when and how pregnancies occur. We're taught abstinence and using protection to prevent pregnancies but nowhere in those classes did we ever learn that pregnancy may take years let alone never occur. Knowing that there is only a 20% chance of conception for a “normal” woman each month I continue to be amazed at the number of “fertiles” that surround us on any given day.
I am positive that there hasn’t been some alien invasion that has brought more “fertiles” to earth over the last 5 years, but at times it sure does feel like it! You can’t leave the house without being forced to think about your empty womb! It’s like an intervention where all the pregnant women and new mommies in Virginia grabbed their baby strollers, diaper bags, nursing blankets, babies and toddlers and scheduled a meeting for the exact time that you and your husband go to Chick-fil-a for dinner. As infertiles we want a baby so badly, it's all we can think about. The more negative pregnancy tests we have, the stronger those urges become and the more acutely aware we are of our own lack of pregnancy!
Through this process we have heard from fertility research that thousands upon thousands of couples are infertile and have trouble conceiving. From what I gather there don’t seem to be many of them in my city…just me! Our house seems to be the only one without children in our neighborhood. I'm sure our neighbors want to know what’s up with the creepy couple that lives down the street with a big ass house and no kids. It's funny how we prepare for the children that we're sure are coming. We buy new cars and homes to accomodate that bundle of joy that the stork will soon be bringing.
All I want to know is...Who Shot My Stork?