I can’t tell you how many times I have gone to the doctor and anxiously awaited that dreaded question…“Are you pregnant?” No, I don’t mean my fertility doctor. I’m talking about all the other doctors that you see on a regular basis, like the optometrist, dermatologist, dentist or your regular primary care provider. I know that if you are a female it’s routine to be asked this question. The problem is it’s a reminder that you are not pregnant or that you had a miscarriage.
OK you have made it past the initial question and you are hit with another dreaded question…“Are you on any medications?” I know it sounds like a completely harmless question but you would be wrong. I dread this question because it results in the follow-up question, “Are you sure you are not pregnant.” Let me explain. At any point I am on a myriad of medications for pregnancy or infertility: prenatal vitamins, estrogen, progesterone, and FSH and HCG injections. Then you have to further explain either you’re not pregnant but going through fertility treatments or you just had a miscarriage. As your journey continues it gets more and more difficult when you see the same doctors every few months and are forced to have the same conversation again and again!
I had the worst experience just a few weeks after my last miscarriage. I had gotten bit by a cat and ended up having to go to the emergency room because my hand had become severely infected. At which point I had to relive the recent loss and explain my medications and the reason that I had not had a period in 8 weeks to the triage nurse, the ER nurse, the Doctor and the X-Ray technician.
I can’t wait for the day that I can say to each and every one of them, “YES I AM!”