Oh by all means…I never thought of that. Why don’t we just adopt? I guess all those helpful supporters that feel like they have to say something just assume that you can run down to your nearest Target (or if you are high end…Macy’s) and buy the cutest little baby in what ever size or color your heart desires. The adoption process can be just as overwhelming and stressful as fertility treatments. You can’t just “Buy” a baby.
Adoption has so many variables and decisions that have to be made you can not make that decision lightly. First you have to decide are you emotionally and mentally ready to adopt? Can you accept and love a child that is not biologically yours or is racially or culturally different? Do both spouses agree that adoption is a good way to grow your family? Once you have made those decisions then you have to decide whether you want to do a domestic or a foreign adoption…both of which have their own pros and cons. Deciding to adopt makes your lives an open book and the home study dives deep down into your private lives. So the question, “Why don’t you just adopt?” is not as simple as it sounds.
Don’t be discouraged though, adoption is an amazing resource and can be a fantastic way to expand your family. Don’t let the paperwork and home study deter you. Just prepare yourself for the process. See a counselor or join a support group that can help you review all of your options, answer those questions and walk you through the decision of deciding if adoption is right for you. Check out some of the available resources…
And next time you are given the helpful suggestion of “Why don’t you just adopt?” Simply respond with, “Because the cat is allergic!”