How many times have you heard, “If you just relax then you will get pregnant?” Whew…thanks so much for sharing that little tidbit! How come the man that I have paid thousands of dollars and has a medical degree with a specialty in infertility didn’t tell me that to begin with? I know that people really want to be helpful and feel that they HAVE to say something, but sometimes it is better just to keep your mouth shut. Amongst all us “infertiles” this piece of advice has really just become part of the running list of jokes that we all know by heart. Here is the problem, on the outside it is funny, but for most women struggling with infertility it really hits home. Being told that simply relaxing will allow you to conceive can feel like someone has added a 10,000lb weight onto an already overloaded back. If only it were that simple!
I’ve tried yoga, bending and twisting myself into fun shapes, diaphragmatic breathing, candles and music soundscapes frantically trying to relax. When the entire time I am thinking, relax… OK, relax…No; really relax…I SAID RELAX DAMN IT!!! Now I am right back to being stressed only sore and short of breath.Though I am sure that some sort of relaxation can be helpful in keeping you calm during fertility treatments it is not the reason you are infertile! So yes do yoga, but only do the poses that feel soothing and calming to you. Listen to whatever music you like…sing it at the top of your lungs and just enjoy the time. Watch a silly movie with your husband while holding each other in silence. The best thing we can do during infertility is to embrace any moment that gives you the smallest bit of happiness!!!