I recently attended a support group meeting and during the introductions it appeared that several of the women had all seen a particular doctor at some point during the fertility process and had some real “horror” stories. This really got me thinking about this and my own infertility journey.
I know first hand what it is like to have someone question your choice of doctor because of things they have read on the internet, heard from other friends or what they think is the best course of action for you. First of all no one likes to be questioned when it comes to their choice of medical team and no one really wants to hear all the scary stories you have heard about other doctors. I do believe that it is imperative to find the doctor that works best for you and your spouse and do your research before choosing a doctor. Talking to people who have seen the doctor you are considering is a good idea, but don’t listen to the second hand gossip from others.
I did not originally choose my doctor. He was sort of a package deal with my Oncologist. I did not really know if I would even make it past the cancer phase of my journey to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist let alone be able to even start fertility treatments again. Don’t get me wrong I researched the mess out of him before I agreed to continue with him! I am however, VERY BLESSED to have Dr. L as my RE. He is an absolutely amazing doctor and I can not imagine being on this journey with anyone else. My personality is not exactly what you would call up-tight and Dr. L has this ability to know exactly what I need each visit. He can laugh and joke around with me on my good days and comfort me on my bad. He is honest, caring and dedicated to do whatever he can to make me a mother. I could not have made a better decision when I chose Dr. L and thank God everyday for him!
I encourage you to do your research when choosing a doctor and if you are not comfortable with him/her when you have your first visit then it is OK to find the doctor that works best for you. Infertility is stressful enough without adding a doctor that doesn’t meet your needs into the mix!